Ask not what your Relationship can do for you but what you can do for your Relationship!

When I'm working with couples I try and remember the above adage as it helps to keep me focused on the Relationship itself and how each partner can help to nurture and positively shape the direction and nature of their union.  By turning the question around and asking "What does this Relationship need from me?" rather than 'What can I get from this Relationship"? helps to shift the centre away from the individual to the partnership itself.

At a recent public lecture at Balmain Town Hall, Harville Hendrix, author of "Getting the Love You Want" suggested that conflict can sometimes arise when partners find it difficult to accept the differences or "otherness" of the spouse.(1)  He claimed that accepting the other person as they are (without trying to change them) moves us towards love and benefits the relationship as a whole.

What can I hope to gain?

• Faster Improvement – quicker results than struggling alone

• Personal Growth – a deeper understanding of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour

• Get unstuck – an awareness of any repeating patterns or behaviours in your life

• A shared perspective – feel validated and supported in your efforts

• Be empowered – learn to manage your symptoms to avoid relapse

• Structured healing – guidance towards your goals