Repairing your Relationship

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Published on Sunday, 29 January 2012 00:00

By Sam Mathews, creator of 'Relationships Today' Blog

Although I enjoy the Christmas and New Year break as much as anyone else I can also appreciate that for some people it is a challenging time. I have been spending time with some of my clients in private practice reflecting back over the festive season as a time when stresses and cracks appeared in their relationships with arguments and conflict taking centre stage.

The mix of more time on our hands to be around those we love, high expectations for the season and over-indulgence in food and alcohol can provide a volatile environment where arguments and long standing resentments are aired. Likewise for some people the holiday period can be a lonely and isolating time especially if you are a migrant, single or separated.

However the fact that arguments arise at this time of year gives each of us an opportunity to repair our relationships and get grievances and hurts out into the open. All couples fight and even as individuals we often find we are at war with ourselves; the most important factor is whether we can make up or repair what's been said or done.

Being alone can also give us the space to reflect on our lives and repair our self esteem so that we can start a healthier, more open, honest dialogue with ourself and our loved ones.

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